Is Your Toddler Afraid of Something?

Most moms create a "Fear Icon" to their kids to scare them when they do not obey.

Is this good???Will it affect his confidence?

My sister's kid is scared of Monster and pressure cooker's whistle. Just the sight of a pressure cooker and he'll run or hug his parents.

My brother's daughter is scared of Big Eyes- an imaginary monster they create. Others are even afraid of the dark. They often use these fear when they are not obeying or during a tantrum which I think is helpful for the parents.

I do not let my kid developed fear of the dark. I believe that it might affect his confidence and could lead to emotional breakdown when there will be brownout at night. What if he would develop a phobia of the dark and he could not breathe or could not move or do something when its dark?

I haven't instill on my child's mind something that should be fear of. He's not scared of anything. Even he wanted to go near a dinosaur, lol. Its true... When we went to Dinosaur's Alive, he was fascinated most by T-Rex. While other kids hugged their moms with scary faces, Jasper was smiling and laughing pointing to the dinosaur. He even wants to hug it, hehehe.

At the moment, one thing he's scared of is my ANGER. Humans as we are, we do have anger outburst sometimes no matter how much we control it. My son saw it once and he got scared... Opps, I remember Monsters Inc. part of the movie where Kitty was told by Mr. Waternoose to roar and the little girl saw the monster side of him. But I wasn't like that monster, lol. My little boy got scared but of course, I hugged him and reassured him that I would never be angry if he would be a good boy. I think he got it and is obeying my orders.

I seldom get angry and I guess that's what makes it effective. Coz if youre angry all the time, your kid will be immune to it and will not have any effect in the future. Its okay to get angry sometimes to toddlers, only when necessary. It sets them boundaries and lets them know their limits.


One day, I went out and left my kid for an hour with my sister. When I came back, she was so impressed. She said he wanted to open the drawer, my sister just told him...NO, YOUR MOM WILL GET ANGRY... He stopped and obeyed. So, no need to create a fear icon to my little junior... hmmm, as of the moment... I hope he will not change. He's still 19 months old, so you'll never know...

To moms out there - Whatever suits you and your kid...do it... Moms know best.