Indian Matrimony

In the Philippines, I used to joke around to my friends who are singles (those who wanted to marry but have no one to marry with) that there should be a MATRIMONIAL CLASSIFIED ADS where an individual can advertise themselves in the newspapers for marriage...We used to laugh about that silly idea... When I came in India and fumbled through the sunday newspaper, I was so surprised to see the Matrimonial Pages,GROOMS WANTED, BRIDES WANTED...wowwww...I can't believe it... Here in India, they advertise themselves in the newspapers (others in matrimonial websites) to find their ideal life partner...Honestly, I find it so weird and silly...

Sample ads:
GROOMS WANTED:
High status south delhi based Punjabi family seeks alliance for their beautiful 27 yr.old daughter,slim,smart,MBA...
BRIDES WANTED:
Handsome,fair Gupta boy,5'6",Graduate,with 3 million property,own house in Delhi,caste no bar...

My husband said that here in India, most women do not have social life... They don't usually go out in the mall, in discos or go for an overnight company beach outing unlike in the Philippines... Most women stays at home...
Plus, family plays a big role in choosing their son or daughter's life partner... Mostly, its the parents who choose and decide a partner for them...

There are two types of marriages here. ARRANGED MARRIAGE AND LOVE MARRIAGE...

ARRANGED MARRIAGE
Well from the word itself, is a marriage that is arranged...by the parents of both parties (bride and groom). The families would discuss and evaluate if both of them were fit for each other. They consider a hell lot of factors like birthdate, alignment of moon and sun, religion, girl's dowry and so many other things...If both families agreed that their children are fit to marry, then they would arrange the marriage... Some families in the far villages arrange the marriage of their children right after they are born...

LOVE MARRIAGE
This is kinda weird to most indian communities... The usual thing in the Philippines and other countries where the couples meet and fall in love and decide to tie the knot regardless of what the family will say is a strange thing here...

I questioned my Indian fellows on which type of marriage they prefer and I was surprised at their answers... Most women prefer love marriage while mots indian men prefer arranged marriage. I asked them why? Women said, "I trust myself in choosing the best life partner for me", while men told me they trusts their moms in choosing an excellent wife for them... Hmmm, any comments?

I'm so lucky to be a part of a very open-minded and modern Indian family... They do not believe on arranged marriage... They trust their children's choice of life partner. My mom-in-law also prefer happiness and love to be there in his son's life and in order to achieve that, he should marry the one he loves... and he married me :-)

Hehehehe...so much for indian tradition talk...This is Leigh...signing off...